Insult my wife

[JJFlash]

We've talked about confrontations on other threads. Thought I might start a new one to gen up new interest.

Here's the deal: You're carrying and someone insults your wife publicly. To me, that calls for a confrontation on your part. But, now you're carrying. I don't think we can go scuffling around with somebody since that's a good way to lose control of your weapon. Walk away? That would be tough. Hand the gun to your wife? Mine has a carry permit but still...Go deposit your weapon in your vehicle, come back, and THEN smack somebody? Nahhh...If I'm gonna fight, I intend to hit first, hard, and fast; anything else sets you up to lose. So, I don't know...what do we do? I can walk away from some crap, but there are plenty of situations that I don't think I could (insulting my wife in front of me is one of them). I'm interested in hearing from the "brotherhood"...What would you do?

[JJFlash]

Turns out we're still discussing this on the above thread "CC Gone Wrong"

[caldwelljoe]

Dear friend,

I too have thought about this problem for years. I strongly suggest that you grab your wife and run away. Later we could both sooth her feelings, but can't recall the escalation of violence. What might occur in the heat of the moment might cause us long lasting regret.

Be safe, and avoid conflict whenever possible. I don't mean when a knife or gun are presented. The gloves come off then.

[Invisible_Dave]

Why would you get in a fight because some guy calls your wife names? What does that prove exactly? I would never, nor would my wife expect me to, start a fight because some one called her fat/skinny/ugly/hot etc. Of course if the guy is saying he's going to take action and hurt someone then you have to take defensive action.

[stumpjumper101]

Avoid conflict of the name calling nature at all costs. that go's back to the sticks and staones saying we were all taught when we were kids. Should you escalate the onflict by physical action you never know where it could lead. the person handing out the insults could be carrying as well, should you escalte the situation who knows where it could lead too. the outcome will be one thing for sure something that both parties will regret. I dont know what your laws are where you live but here it basically states we when in fear of our life we can use deadly force as long as we are 1. somewhere we have a right to be. 2. Not involved in something illegal ( assaulting someone for what they said). All of our wives will get over their dignity being insulted sooner than they will us serving time in prison or pushing up dasies!

I constatntly have to tell my wife to chill in public places. she is one of those people who if someone bumps into her in public and doesnt say excuse me she will get verbal. i keep telling her to let the little things go and pick your battles, some things are just not worth getting worked up over. I know some day she is going to write a check with her mouth that her body cant cash and i am gonna stand back and try not to laugh ( where she can see me)

[Ektarr]

I know some day she is going to write a check with her mouth that her body cant cash . . .

Mine's pretty much the same, but I have the feeling that someday she's going to write a check that I may have to cash! I dread the day, but I fear it's coming. (Not when I'm carrying, though!)

[JJFlash]

OK, ya'll, I'm surprised and grateful for the counsel. Maybe I'm not a mature as I thought I was (and I'm effin' 56!). I was sure that I was gonna get more agreement on this. Hmmm...I'm gonna have to start re-tooling.

FYI, I haven't been in a serious fight for a very long time; lest I sound like a macho butthead. Just enjoy posing scenarios and how I might handle them and getting feedback. I always learn something.

[pb_beaker]

Why would you get in a fight because some guy calls your wife names? What does that prove exactly? I would never, nor would my wife expect me to, start a fight because some one called her fat/skinny/ugly/hot etc. Of course if the guy is saying he's going to take action and hurt someone then you have to take defensive action.

I agree with Dave. Why put to risk everything you have worked DAMN hard for just because someone said something bad to your wife. Unless you or your wife are in immediate danger let it roll off your shoulder and go on with your day.

[6shootercarry]

I was just having this discussion with a friend of mine with regards to some comments that were made (in jest) by a neighbor about his daughter. The guy kept saying the same thing more than 4 times over a period of 3 weeks not knowing that he was pissing off my friend (who is also a neighbor). So my friend asks me "what would you do"? "Should I tell him that the comments are pissing me off and the next time he opens his mouth I'm going to close it for him"? It's tough... I told him this simple rule that I was taught by a high school shop teacher (The guy was a certified black belt and was a self defense instructor). If you bring the desire to have a conflict with you when you go places conflict will find you. Eventually you will get into a conflict with a person who can defend themselves better than you. If you’re lucky it will hurt just your pride. If not so lucky you could die. I keep that one in mind when I go out and especially when armed. Just laugh and look at her and say “Aren’t you glad you married me instead of a loser like that?

[Aggressive1]

Why can't you just say, "look buddy, if I wasn't packing I'd kick your ass right now, but I am packing so I'm just gonna walk away". If someone said that to me in a calm collect way I'd probably wait till he turned around and rethink the next time I mock someone.....if I wasn't armed. I'm always armed, so I keep my comments to myself unless its all in fun.