Conversation with my Ex-wife about guns

[6shootercarry]

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[hollie1]

If shes that bad at losing or miss placing things then the gun is something she shouldn't have. Has to the pepper spray I'd be worried the kids might also find it. That could be harmful also! Has to the gun issue I don't blame you at all! Your response was correct female or not! Your #1 worry and frist concern should be your kids safty!

[6shootercarry]

If shes that bad at losing or miss placing things then the gun is something she shouldn't have. Has to the pepper spray I'd be worried the kids might also find it. That could be harmful also! Has to the gun issue I don't blame you at all! Your response was correct female or not! Your #1 worry and frist concern should be your kids safty!

I'd rather the kids find pepper spray instead of a misplaced, forgotten, or unsecured loaded gun!!!

Peace...

[Booga]

An honest opinion with a reason behind it is not hypocrisy.
Having something that you never intend to use could be a liability. You recognize that and relayed that observation to the ex. That is the responsible answer. Sure, you'll catch some flak back for it, but don't sweat it.

[SpaceFrank]

I also do not think that she has the mindset to think through the possibility of really having to use the gun, thus having it taken from her.

Oh, I've definitely run into this before. I work at a sporting goods chain that is also an FFL. I can't remember the number of times I've seen people looking at guns with their friend/spouse/whatever, and one will say to the other something to the effect of "Oh, I would never use the gun, but I want to have it just in case." There's also the oft-repeated assertion that racking a shotgun slide is all you ever have to do to protect your home from an intruder.

IMHO, if you are not mentally prepared to use deadly force on another human being, given the appropriate circumstances, you should not carry a gun. It may sound cold, but having a gun that you promise yourself to never use is worse than having nothing. I've heard stories about women being threatened with robbery or rape only to pull out a gun, not have the guts to use it, and then face even worse reprisal from the criminal, up to and including murder. Carrying a gun is a huge responsibility, even discounting the legal one.

[gun papa]

To bring yet another aspect, I left her due to drugs, alcohol, lies, violence, etc. Afterward she attempted suicide with pills. She had with her friends, created a story and had me arrested for Domestic Violence. She did this to control me as I am an LEO firearms instructor. Her thinking was if I was going to leave I would have to give up my entire life in the process. The sheriff took all of my guns.

This is the Cliff Notes version. My life was HELL. In the end, I got my guns back, the house, my job, and am living as normal. The court has us share the kids.
She is sober now and seeing what wake she left in her life. She hates the woman that I see.

A gun would concern me on many levels. Scary huh?

[AvidshooterTX]

Like a country song played backwards - got your guns back, got your job back... - everything 'cept the wife.

[Rocketgeezer]

To some this may seem a little underhanded, but with your kids involved, I would take this a step or two further, in your position as a instructor, you have certain contacts, if she trys to get a permit, going by what you said about the suicide, there has to be someone you know of that can legaly prevent it, same go's to her trying to legaly buy a gun, and as far asthe sheriff takeing your guns, that was to cover his own butt, he should have known your a good guy cause you didn't take more lethal action when she pulled that **** on you

[CapGun]

KIMBER is the only way to go in this situation! Pepper spray that is!!!!!
The whole scenario you present sure scares me. At least she hasn't misplaced any of the kids. Or has she?

[6shootercarry]

To bring yet another aspect, I left her due to drugs, alcohol, lies, violence, etc. Afterward she attempted suicide with pills. She had with her friends, created a story and had me arrested for Domestic Violence. She did this to control me as I am an LEO firearms instructor. Her thinking was if I was going to leave I would have to give up my entire life in the process. The sheriff took all of my guns.

This is the Cliff Notes version. My life was HELL. In the end, I got my guns back, the house, my job, and am living as normal. The court has us share the kids.
She is sober now and seeing what wake she left in her life. She hates the woman that I see.

A gun would concern me on many levels. Scary huh?

I have been assisting my sister-in-law with the same kinda thing. Her husband has become a real piece of Sh!t..
She has been granted a restraining order. He emptied the bank accounts etc... He had a shotgun (illegally) and had been denied a LTC here for a past assault issue. He was pissed at my wife and made some threats, which even as dumb as he is, I still take serious. Drinking and using all kinds of pills...

So I get the issue here. Trust (the lack there of)...

"Try some pepper spray" would be the best advice for her.

Peace...