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    On my day off. A very close friend calls. Hey bud I'm in town till Monday. He is a musician and is always traveling. Do you have time to go to the range. Of coarse I ask my awesome wife If I could go. She said why are you asking. I kind of giggled. So we go to the range. And caught up from the last time we seen each other. We had a blast. Literally. So we head back to my house. I asked my wife ify buddy coulda have dinner with us. So we head down stairs to strip and clean our weapons. Well a few minutes in I hear a person yelling at my wife. It was my sister in law. She tells my wife that she can't believe that my buddy and myself were downstairs cleaning our weapons while my son and 2 nephews are upstairs playing. So my proceeds to tell her to shut her hole. She said you knew we have guns in the house in a safe that he and I only have keys too. And the combination. With my buddy laughing his behind off. I walk up stairs and asked calmly. What's the problem? Now I'm the target. All I her from my sister in law. Blah Blah Blah Blah. So I go upstairs and get my nephew's. And tell them along with my wife and son to wait on the porch. I let her have it. I told her this isn't your house. To get out of the Dodge that she wasn't welcome in my house no more. That if the boys want to come over and play that my wife or myself would come and pick them up. End of story.

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    nope, not wrong at all.
    you might try inviting the sis-in-law along to the range, in my experience the gun haters react from a place of ignorance, they really just don't understand.
    show her a good time, include safety lessons and lots of encouragement..if you do it right- she'll be back for information on buying her own firearm :)
    good luck!

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    Yes, you were wrong, but only because you handled it poorly. You had an opportunity to educate someone, and her children, and chose to be angry instead, furthering her belief that "gun people" aren't intelligent people. This will only make her more closed minded in the future.

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    My father in law is a huge gun guy. . And my wife and her 4 siblings have been well educated and all have taken gun safety and the hunters safety course. My oldest nephew has been to the range with me and my father in law. And was a complete sponge with what he was doing right and wrong and showing him the correct way.

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    You were wrong. Yes

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    I agree with both answers so far. You were not in the wrong on your position. but the way you addressed it was not right in my opinion. My opinion though has very strong family relations, and my relationship with my brother and sister in laws are very important to me. So...you were right about it being your house, your rules, and you were being safe with your firearms, and she has no say in that. You were wrong that you let an opportunity go to show your children how to be better than your opponent, and to help educate an "educated" person.
    “One of the illusions of life is that the present hour is not the critical, decisive one.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

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    You weren't even doing it in front of her kids, so I don't see why it's such a big issue. I suppose she could be freaked out that if a gun accidentally went off it would endanger her children even if they were in a different room. At which point she needs to know and understand that proper safety procedures were being followed. But it's hard to educate someone that is irate, and even harder when their overreaction triggers us to become lose our temper too. But I would hope that someone in my house would understand that I wouldn't do anything to endanger my family, so their family would be equally as safe.

    I clean my gun in front of my two little girls because that's about the only time it isn't loaded and chambered other than when I'm transporting it not on my person. This makes it the safest time for them to look at it, hold it, learn about it, and ask questions. They know my wife and I have guns, and I like the idea of their curiosity being regularly satiated in this manner so that they are less inclined to ever try and gain access to them on their own, even if they are locked up. It also means they are regularly relearning and being tested on gun safety, something that I think is very important when you have kids and guns in the same house.

    Maybe when things are less heated it would be a good idea to reach out to her and explain how everything was being done safely because you would never put anyone in your house in harm's way. Offer to teach her and her kids about the safety precautions you take and everyone should take when they are around guns. They are scary things to people that don't understand them so her reaction is understandable. They are safer than a lot of everyday things when you do understand them so your reaction is understandable too. This means neither of you were in the wrong, and I am a firm believer that all misunderstandings can be rectified with communication and education.
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    i wouldn't put up with any one under my roof that tells me to 'shut my piehole' that was just rude and disrespectful as far as i'm concerned esp to say to your spouse. i feel it should have been handled with more kindness and understanding as well perhaps made it a great opportunity to teach your wife about gun safety and cleaning .....rather than shut her out of the experience and probably piss her off with that kind of attitude. she should have put you in the dog house after that 'shut your piehole' response !
    now go apologize to your wife and try to educate her in a respectful patient and polite way and you might get lucky with some good 'make up sex' heheh
    gun control is being able to hit your target

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    Sounds like co-dependence to me. Inlaws can be a pain.

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    im sorry in my first post. i was typing on my I phone and hopped on my shop's computer. my wife told her sister my sister in law to shut her hole. i have to much respect to talk to my wife that way.

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