At one time, I owned a Wildey .45 Win mag. Also, I shot a friend's .44 mag Desert Eagle. Both pistols are BIG. They have the same design flaw: a grip too big for normal hands to hold properly, despite having only a single stack magazine. That being said, they are not bad to shoot. Trust me, a .357 magnum derringer is much worse. So is my .44 mag S&W Mountain Gun with full power heavy bullet loads. My Freedom Arms .454 Casull is not as bad because of grip design, greater weight, and porting.
If you have a way to comfortably carry a monster like the Desert Eagle, and hands big enough to hang onto it, I wouldn't worry too much about recoil.
“The police of a State should never be stronger or better armed than the citizenry. An armed citizenry, willing to fight is the foundation of civil freedom.” Heinlein