Child Custody Issue

[wolfhunter]

I went 23 years without seeing or speaking to my daughters. In October 2007, the oldest one contacted me. In September, 2008, my current wife and I went to see my daughters, finally. God bless you guys and I hope everything works out for you.

[chroode]

Wolfhunter - glad to see your were finally reunited. I'm hoping for the same someday myself. Was your daughters brainwashed by your ex?

The reason I ask is I think my son is/has been brainwashed by my ex probably to the point that he is extemely fearful. No there is absolutely no basis other than here using this as a way of punishing me for????? She's nuts.

How was the reunion?

[MADnMO]

I am so glad my ordeal is over. And yes they do figure it out in the end. When they are old enough to understand what is going on they will start to fight back.

I pray for all who are going through these tough times.

[wolfhunter]

Originally Posted by chroode

Wolfhunter - glad to see your were finally reunited. I'm hoping for the same someday myself. Was your daughters brainwashed by your ex?

The reason I ask is I think my son is/has been brainwashed by my ex probably to the point that he is extemely fearful. No there is absolutely no basis other than here using this as a way of punishing me for????? She's nuts.

How was the reunion?

Unfortunately for the girls, my ex pulled the same stunts with them as she did with me, so they figured out what was going on as teenagers. Also, my ex-sister in law knew me before my ex did, and told the girls what a great guy I am (she thinks).

From what I've seen in my case and others, the kids eventually figure out what's going on. Hopefully it's sooner rather than later.

[gdcleanfun]

Originally Posted by wolfhunter

... the kids eventually figure out what's going on. Hopefully it's sooner rather than later.

I wish. I had grandkids for a total of about 2 months, then the daughter began to put in her digs about what a rotten father my husband had been, still is. The daughter is in her 40s. She still does not gettit! There are none so blind as those who will not see!!! I no longer get to see the grandkids. Maybe someday the grandkids will "see."

[ga.glockdog63]

Man, I read this and felt so bad for you....I had to put in my .02. I have been divorced for over 10 years and have been awarded custody from the very get go, and have been through so much that I feel for you. First off, the LEO can't speak to the judge.....she(your ex)would have to file a contempt of court, they would have a hearing which you would have been notified of so you could have your attorney represent you. Then she has to prove that your in contempt, which from what you state, she never would have succeeded.

You know it's a shame that the officer did that to you, I don't blame you a bit.....I would sue that county and make that deputy suffer the consequences. I hope he loses his job for playing with you like that. Good luck my friend, I hope the best for you!!!!!!

[1911 Headbanger]

Originally Posted by ga.glockdog63

Man, I read this and felt so bad for you....I had to put in my .02. I have been divorced for over 10 years and have been awarded custody from the very get go, and have been through so much that I feel for you. First off, the LEO can't speak to the judge.....she(your ex)would have to file a contempt of court, they would have a hearing which you would have been notified of so you could have your attorney represent you. Then she has to prove that your in contempt, which from what you state, she never would have succeeded.

You know it's a shame that the officer did that to you, I don't blame you a bit.....I would sue that county and make that deputy suffer the consequences. I hope he loses his job for playing with you like that. Good luck my friend, I hope the best for you!!!!!!

As a guy who's been through a Divorce and a retired LEO, I can easily say the Deputy was wrong. He does NOT have an opinion on contempt of court. THE JUDGE has an opinion on contempt of court. The Officer cannot arrest you for contempt of court unless he has a piece of paper in his hand or knows of an active warrant for your arrest, issued by that Judge. Only a Judge can charge contempt of court and in Divorce or child custody, there usually has to be a hearing or motion made before him. (Unless it's for a Protective Restraining Order from Violence) He was bluffing you to get you to give up the kid to settle the problem, because your ex-wife had *1) already spent several minutes with him convincing him that you were a scumbag and an evil person, (happens everyday)*2) advised him that you are always doing this and the cops always have trouble out of you,(happens everyday) *3) had a paper that says you were supposed to have him back at a certain time. But he didn't want to go out on a limb and make a decision concerning the holiday time. However he had no problem making a decision on using the contempt of court scheme. I constantly saw ex-wives telling the LEO all of the trouble that the ex-husband had been in or caused, in order to sway the way you are treated and to have the upper hand advantage with Law Enforcement. I got to the point that this didn't work after I saw what was happening after a few times.

Always understand, the complainer has the first say-so with the LEO. They can tell them almost anything, and when they approach you, they have a mindset of you're the bad guy or they have their mind made up already. I've seen it happen too many times. Yes, alot of times the man is the problem if he was violent with the spouse. Some guys get it extra bad if they got caught fooling around or left her for another woman. It's now the womans time for revenge. I can only say this. It's a very tricky and dirty world for a LEO when dealing with Divorced People. He hears it from both sides, but who's telling the truth? I really feel for you in this situation, and believe the LEO in this instance was wrong and lied to you for a bluff and sided with your wife, instead of trying to stay neutral.

[wildcathunter]

you are exactly right. she did fill his head full of crap. but i can tell you thing, he is no longer a deputy in the county i live in. sheriff had enough of his bs