It's not that I didn't believe you, but BC1 is correct. You are too sensitive for these discussions. Don't take things so personally. Someone disagreeing with you is not attacking your character.
NY allows the licensing officer's of the county to place restrictions. A positive stance would allow you to maintain your NY pistol license when you relocate to another state. I believe everyone interprets the law differently. If you have a NY license issued with the out of state address that's a beautiful thing.