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  1. #11
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    Nov 2010
    Fluvanna County Virginia
    I would recommend counseling. Do not be offended, I intend none. Issues with firearms, loud noises, spiders or anything, often have underlying causes. No issue or fear can be remedied without addressing what caused it. Before suggesting that your wife get familiar with guns, have her talk about what bothers her about them.

  3. #12
    I went through a similar situation. First time she fired a .40 she almost cried. Put it down and quit. I bought her a Walther P22. She likes it. Still can't shoot. We realized it wasn't shooting the gun. It was all the other people at the range shooting unhinged her nerves, not knowing when they were going to fire. Hell, I still jump sometimes myself when I'm not expecting a shot. Maybe some alone time for her at an empty range, ease into it with a .22, and just sit back behind her in case she wants to ask you something, and let her do her thing, assuming she knows all the safety rules already.

    She is also TERRIFIED of dogs. In the last year or two, she has found she can tolerate small dogs, and has worked her way up to trusting her best girlfriends German Shepard after getting to know it slowly. I'd say... easy does it, ease her in slowly with a small gun at her own pace.
    You can run... but you'll just die tired. 3%

  4. #13
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    Dec 2009
    Cortland County, New York

    Getting Women in the game

    VERDAD Investigations and Protection, Inc. has a Ladies Only course program that may address her concerns and get her shooting on target! We also do private or small group (like you and she) instruction. We have a private range facility so she won't be on range with the public. Seeing and shooting with other women, the guns they carry and being with others does help. Usually a woman is the only female on the range, that in itself can be intimidating. Women also need a weapon that fits her hand, and her arm strength to handle the recoil, you weapon might not do that therefore leaving her with a feeling of lack of control. See our web site Home - Verdad Investigations and I encourage you to give us a call! 315-453-3660.

  5. #14
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    Sep 2010

    Talking update to previous post

    Well I took her to the range on thursday talked her through her fears I let her go at her pace she took her own time taking her first shot which was with a 22mag revolver she ended putting 100 rounds through it then she decided to try my glock 19 she did about 150 rounds she felt comftable at the end that she asked me when I would take her again. Today (Sat) she asked me if I would take her again next week it was a possitive outcome by letting her make the decision when and where to shoot now we have another supporter of our rights whereas if I had pushed her her defenses would have kicked in and never fired that first shoot ( she doesn't know it yet but yesterday I picked up a kel tec pf9 for her to have a lil smaller to shoot:). Thanks. Rather be tried by 12 than carried by 6. Hector
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    Asst CCW Instructor FL

  6. Quote Originally Posted by thornton8000 View Post
    Hello all,

    I've been an avid firearm user for over 18yrs and am very comfortable owning, soon to be carrying. My wife on the other hand gets very nervous, (she can't even fire a BB gun) due to her ex and the issues he caused, any ideas on how I can help ease her fears of firearms?
    She's ok with guns in the home, as long as they are locked and ammo seperate from the pistol. I'll be carrying a .357 4in on my person day to day and keeping a .38 in the home for protection, will I want to teach her on this firearm, or start her on a .22? I plan on teaching her how to handle a .22 pistol and LR come Feb, March after she delivers.

    Thanks once again to the family here on usa carry for all your thoughts and insights,


    You're in the same boat that a lot of us are or have been when it comes to wanting the other half to learn to shoot and enjoy it.

    I started my wife out on a 22 and it was quite hard to get her to give it up. Eventually she wound up in a .380 Ruger LCP and loves an all metal .45ACP.

    You could look at it this way: If you have to buy a 22 and she winds up not liking it, then you'll have another toy in your collection. It's win-win!

  7. #16
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    Jul 2008
    Belleville, MI & Phoenix, AZ
    Take her to a shooting range, let her pick out something to shoot with, a fire a few rounds.

  8. #17
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    Dec 2010
    Phoenix, AZ

    I feel your pain

    I am in the exact situation with you. My wife had a boyfriend (21 years ago) who put a gun in her face and HATES them. I mean HATE HATE HATE with every expression I can. When we got married I was a LEO (Cop) and she knew it I would be coming with a gun and something to get used to. She originally asked I keep it locked in a safe with ammo separate, I told her I would not do that because , God forbid, if an intruder came in, I was not going to say "Excuse me, but before you harm us, let me get my gun out of the closet", All she asks now is keep it out of her sight, She doesn't like to hug me while I have it on me. She has gone to the range with me 2 times in 16 years.

    the key is NOT TO PUSH IT! I would encourage you to talk to her about letting you keep it loaded and unlocked but beyond that, let her get used to it.

    Message me if you need any further info or questions answered. Just remember, Take it SLOW.

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