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    Quote Originally Posted by ack8910 View Post
    They know I'm responsible, intelligent, and one of the "good guys." This all stems from something my dad said "there's enough violence w/o everyone having a gun; people would shoot you for just looking at them wrong."

    Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks for your help.
    You father actually gave you the reasoning... "there's enough violence... people WILL shoot you for looking at them wrong."
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    Explaining your decision to carry

    Quote Originally Posted by ack8910 View Post
    I've got my permit and a couple of guns I practice with regularly, and have recently decided to purchase a gun suitable for concealed carry, after months of research. The question is I'm not sure how to explain it to my parents. I know, "do what you want who gives a...!" The thing is I'm a student being supported by my parents ($), not to mention that I love and respect them very much and would rather not go behind their backs (but would if I had to). They know I'm responsible, intelligent, and one of the "good guys." This all stems from something my dad said "there's enough violence w/o everyone having a gun; people would shoot you for just looking at them wrong." Now I could come up with ways to go against his argument. They're not anti-gun by any means. Dad's been NRA for years (weird, huh??). I think what I'm asking is how others might've broken the ice to parents, good friends, spouses, etc; not so much point by point arguments in favor.

    Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks for your help.
    Honesty is the best policy, really.

    Most people who get guns for self-defense carry because we just want to be prepared. With that in mind, I would explain it like this:

    Like any normal adult, you try to think ahead and try to be prepared. Who owns a fire extinguisher? Who keeps candles and/or flashlights in the house? Who has "emergency money" that is separate from their day-to-day money? All these practices are for those who hope for the best, but want to be prepared for the worst. To that end, Mom and Dad, I have carefully researched and then selected some firearms, regularly practiced with them for proficiency, and have adopted the mentality of the responsible gun owner.

    For me, I don't advertise to people that I am carrying. IF they do comment on the fact that I always have a gun on me or within arms reach, I simply reply that "I would rather have it (be it a gun, fire extinguisher, flashlight, or whatever) and never need it, than to need it and not have it."

    For those who point out that the likelihood of crime in my area is very low, I look at them and say, "Just because there is no precedence doesn't mean it won't happen. Look at the Petit family in Connecticut. Look at the folks at Fort Hood. Look at the campers in Oslo." Again, simply put: I would rather have it and not need it than to need it and not have it.

    Good luck with breaking the ice. I hope your discussion with your parents is a positive one and opens the topic up for further discourse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grantlank View Post
    I'm a student as well, and supported by my parents. I know the delima you're in. I decided at first I wouldn't say anything and went out and bought an AR (yeah subtle I know) and got busted when UPS shows up with AR accessories. Once the cat was out of the bag it really wasn't that bad. My parents weren't anti-gun, but never owned any firearms. We had a nice discussion and they seemed to be more upset at the fact that I kept this secret than buying the gun.

    Once I was of age I told them I would be going to take my CWP class to carry concealed. They were weary of this but I reassured them that I, like you, was a good guy and one that was a responsible firearm owner. Once I obtained my permit I carried every place I had the legal right to. I was constantly questioned if it was really necessary to carry at a certain place. I always reminded them that crime can occur anywhere and the reason I had a permit was to protect myself. I encouraged them to pick up the paper and see the crime that was happening.

    I guess what I'm saying is to be honest and up front. Make your case and explain your reasoning. I wish I would have. Now (a year later) I take the family out to shoot regularly and my dad even has a permit. They shouldn't doubt your judgement unless you've given them a reason to. If you would have told me a few years ago that I would have a CWP and own several firearms I wouldn't believe you. I think going about it the right way is important. Good luck!
    I like your response...though honesty had already been put across, yours is from experience. Welcome to this forum. This is a keeper so it is the only gun forum that I subscribe to. Besides, I don't have time to spare as we travel a lot. But that is besides the point. I believe we can learn from you as much as you will learn from various levels of intelligence and experience of this group.
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    "A good guy rarely needs a gun, but when he does he needs it badly."
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  6. When it comes to conceal carry just be as honest with your parents as possible. Why you wand to carry such a weapon is basically your business but parents are appreciative with honesty in these matters.

  7. Every American is afforded the rights as stated in the Bill of Rights. Your just exercising your 2nd Amendment right as an American citizen in this great country to bear arms. And explain that you by exercising your 2nd amendment right can help them one day when a crazed gunman opens fire and that since they have protected and brought you up you are returning the favor of protecting them in the time of need.

  8. Quote Originally Posted by Tucker's Mom View Post
    I like your response...though honesty had already been put across, yours is from experience. Welcome to this forum. This is a keeper so it is the only gun forum that I subscribe to. Besides, I don't have time to spare as we travel a lot. But that is besides the point. I believe we can learn from you as much as you will learn from various levels of intelligence and experience of this group.
    Thanks for the kind words. I've been a reader of the forum for quite a while, but thought it was a good time to jump in. There's a wealth of knowledge on here from many good people. It's a great resource.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eaccents View Post
    Honesty is the best policy, really.

    Most people who get guns for self-defense carry because we just want to be prepared. With that in mind, I would explain it like this:

    Like any normal adult, you try to think ahead and try to be prepared. Who owns a fire extinguisher? Who keeps candles and/or flashlights in the house? Who has "emergency money" that is separate from their day-to-day money? All these practices are for those who hope for the best, but want to be prepared for the worst. To that end, Mom and Dad, I have carefully researched and then selected some firearms, regularly practiced with them for proficiency, and have adopted the mentality of the responsible gun owner.

    For me, I don't advertise to people that I am carrying. IF they do comment on the fact that I always have a gun on me or within arms reach, I simply reply that "I would rather have it (be it a gun, fire extinguisher, flashlight, or whatever) and never need it, than to need it and not have it."

    For those who point out that the likelihood of crime in my area is very low, I look at them and say, "Just because there is no precedence doesn't mean it won't happen. Look at the Petit family in Connecticut. Look at the folks at Fort Hood. Look at the campers in Oslo." Again, simply put: I would rather have it and not need it than to need it and not have it.

    Good luck with breaking the ice. I hope your discussion with your parents is a positive one and opens the topic up for further discourse.
    Ack8910, This is great advice. The one thing you could add to it is that the world is much more violent now than when your parents were growing up; the police almost never arrive in time to stop a crime in progress, only report it; and you feel you have a duty to to protect yourself over anyone else - not your parents, not the police, not the neighbors, but YOU, and you feel to do that against druggies, gang members, ex-cons and other hardcore criminals, you felt it necessary to TRAIN yourself and start carrying a gun. If your parents are interested in statistics, I would tell them about places like Florida, who, when they went from may issue to shall issue the Brady people predicted "it would be the Wild West all over again!" Instead, Florida's violent crime rate dropped by a huge amount in four months...it was something like 40 or 50%. This type of statistic proves that armed civilians as a whole are responsible, law-abiding citizens and don't go around acting like John Wayne in "The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly."
    Edmund Burke: “The people never give up their liberties but under some delusion.” – 1784 speech. Taken from Founding Fathers Notes. "The unarmed man is not just defenseless -- he is also contemptible." Machiavelli

  10. Hey...if your dad is an NRA member, take him to the range with you and let him have some fun !! Start it iff that way and at the same time he will see that you can handle the handgun and do it safely.

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    As you get older (I'm sixty four), you'll learn that you don't have to explain anything to anyone. Family and friends who judge you based on your own, personal decisions shouldn't even be a factor.

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