Should You Hold Someone At Gunpoint Until Police Arrive?

Should You Hold Someone At Gunpoint Until Police Arrive?

Almost a full decade ago, when I was in college, myself and my roommates rented a small house in a nice southern suburb. Our neighbors were generally older folks with a couple of families living on the street. We all worked and went to school. Our idea of a ‘party’ was a couple of beers and a movie up on the projector in the backyard. In short: we were very, very boring people.

The house next door was rented by another group of college students about a year into our lease. We thought nothing of it. Our neighbors generally thought nothing of it because we were no trouble. We were three young men in our early twenties, responsible, and generally figured anyone else doing the same was probably of a similar mindset.

We were wrong.

The second weekend after the new neighbors moved in, they threw a house warming party. A lot of cars were parked on the front lawn and clogging up both sides of the street but I didn’t pay too much mind. I left to work a catering gig and my other roommate went to go spend the night with his girlfriend. For the purposes of this article, we’ll call my roommates Travis and Bill.

Travis was an Army veteran. I was a Marine Corps veteran. And Bill was just a good ole boy from rural North Carolina. Travis had the girlfriend and I had the two part-time jobs. Bill was a farm-boy and about four years younger than me or Travis. Bill, however, had a bad habit. His one bad habit was he liked to ‘call it like he sees it’. I called it not shutting his mouth.

Bill is the roommate we left at home.

Working as a caterer on the weekends, I typically came home at two to three in the morning. Covered in sweat, food waste, and grease, I was genuinely uninterested that I came home to an utter train wreck on my street. I could care less that there were shady looking dudes sneaking behind a neighbor’s shed. I didn’t even care when a fight broke out on the front lawn of my neighbor’s house and one of the hoodies, after getting his butt handed to him, started screaming about “getting his piece”.

Not my problem. I’m exhausted.

However, when I walked into the house and heard the sound of glass smashing, I was forced to pay attention. This was in my early days as a concealed carrier. I carried a Smith & Wesson Bodyguard revolver with a red laser. It was neither fun to shoot nor pleasant but it was easy to carry. And, to be perfectly honest, I had never seen a reason to pull it out. Entering into my home to the sound of yelling and stuff smashing, I realized I could be walking into a bad situation. It got even more complicated when I heard a girl’s voice start screaming, too.

What the heck was happening in my home?

Bill. Bill’s home, I thought.

I open the door to find the door to Bill’s room kicked open. There was yelling. One voice was a man I didn’t recognize. Another one was a woman I didn’t recognize. And the last one was Bill. I called out, “Bill, you okay?”

And that’s when I saw a dude walk out of Bill’s room. He was about a head taller than me, about my age. If he had come for the party across the street, he probably had a few. He definitely seemed to be rather angry about something.

“Who are you?” I asked.

“The ****s it to you?” he replied.

It was about this time he seemed to come to his senses that he had a revolver pointing at him. He even looked down at his own chest to see where the red laser dot rested.

“I need you to leave,” I informed him.

Bill opened the busted door to his bedroom and looked out at me. I could see one of his eyes was swollen shut. Something bad must’ve happened. Then I saw a girl’s head peaking out through the door. The dude looked back at the girl and then at me.

“I ain’t goin’ anywhere.”

“You’re right. You’re going to stand right there and wait until the police arrive.”

He took a step forward and I started depressing the double-action trigger on the Bodyguard. Something must’ve changed in him because instead of taking that next step, he spun around. He started yelling at the girl, yelling at Bill, but he kept in basically the same spot. I could tell he probably had some drinks. And, from the looks of it, I could guess that something happened between Bill and his girl that he didn’t particularly like.

None of those things were my problem. Right now, he’s an uninvited intruder in my home. He assaulted my roommate and damaged the house. He definitely posed a risk to himself, my roommate, this girl, and myself. I told Bill to call 9-1-1. At first, the guy said a bunch of mean, crappy things not worth repeating, and then tried to plead with me, saying he would “just leave”. I held him at gunpoint, as calmly as I could, and just kept repeating that he needed to keep still until police arrived.

It took thirty minutes for the city police to arrive. Bill had told the operator that I had the guy at gunpoint. The first police officer was initially confused as to which house the problem occurred because our neighbor’s house had people hanging around outside. They scattered like cockroaches when the cops showed up but the second officer figured out it was the other house — my house. He called out and identified himself. I told him my situation — I had a guy who broke into my home at gunpoint.

The police took the situation extremely seriously. The second police officer entered the living room first, his gun drawn, and saw where I was standing. He told me to lower my gun and I complied. The first officer came in after him and had me walk into the kitchen. He took temporary custody of the revolver and asked me immediate questions such as: who else was in the home, are there any drugs he should know about, etc.

The second officer had the intruder lay on the ground, face first, and he cuffed him.

More officers arrived. A sheriff’s deputy arrived. An ambulance and a fire truck arrived. It was a whole lot of fun that I was just aching to experience after a long night of working. Both myself and my roommate ended up going down to the police station and giving our statements on what happened. I considered getting an attorney but, being in college, I was much too broke to consider it. Knowing what I know now, I should have.

Because the intruder in the home gave a somewhat truthful testimony, the police concluded that I had every right to be in my home whereas the other guy did not. Not only that, he definitely damaged the property and assaulted my roommate. Lost in this article is the fact I had to go back down to that police station two to three more times for follow-up interviews. Each time, I was certain some charge would come up or they would suddenly decide I was guilty of something. Each time I left absolutely clueless as to where I stood in terms of whether or not what I did was lawful.

Eventually, the desk police officer told me that, “at this present time, no charges are being filed.”

That’s the best I got. No ‘good jobs’, no ‘thank you’, no ‘you’re a scumbag.’

They didn’t talk about what happened to the guy who broke into our home other than he would be charged. He got out on bail and then I had to spent the next eight months wondering if some random guy I held at gunpoint would try to take revenge. My roommate got a restraining order — something we ragged on him at the time but, honestly, was a real smart move.

The guy who broke into our home and beat up my roommate ended up taking a plea deal so neither of us had to show up in court to testify.

My next door neighbors, only a month after the event itself, got evicted from the house. Our neighbors collectively gave a sigh of relief but they were now cautious around us because I used a gun to defend myself. It took probably about six months before our immediate next door neighbors would wave or talk again. I felt somehow like I had done something wrong. And there was absolutely no one to pat me on the back or tell me I did something right or wrong. It was a very independent act — the act of self-defense. I never had to pull the trigger. I was never arrested. I was treated decently by law enforcement.

I also had pretty much every good factor on my side. I hadn’t had a drink. I didn’t do drugs. I had no prior charges. I was clearly in my own home and the person in my home was clearly someone intent on violence. He somewhat complied with my request. I didn’t have to use deadly force to protect myself. I communicated clearly with police and complied with their requests.

I was incredibly lucky, in other words.

If any of those factors had been off — the story would have ended much differently.

These are things you need to think about when you think holding someone at gun point is a good idea.

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Wayne Clark

How long did it take you to get your gun back?


I hope he answers. I’m interested, too.

Sir TuberKopf

Another great article.

This all depends on the laws of your state.

I live in an anti-gun state that is notorious. They did finally years ago enact a basic castle law, we no longer are required to cower and retreat to the furthest reaches of our homes, and the law actually includes speech that indicates you may be immune from prosecution, but the law centers around and protects us only if we are in fear of our lives, or are at risk of major bodily harm! Our state still has reams of laws about brandishing firearms, pointing firearms, or even displaying a firearm in a threatening manner, what ever that means?

As I read my state castle law, you must have an analog switch in your head, like a gas gauge. Somewhere between “I thought that magazine salesmen was such a nice young man” and “total gripping fear that you, or your family is about to die or be maimed” occurs. The law still leaves you in limbo and legal jeperdy between those two critical points.

Existing case law, even in gun liberal states, says: warning shots are attempted murder, and so the question of were you in fear of your life arises, courts historically have said no. If you were in such control, that you could fire a warning shot, or even negotiate at the end of a barrel, then you really weren’t in fear of your life, is the general court opinion. So why did you point, brandish, or fire a weapon?

I read this story and shudder. The potential legal entanglements are frightening.

I’m left with only a few thoughts, hire a lawyer, and answer no police questions without that lawyer present, as well allow no searches of your property without a warrant. If you must fire or even display a firearm in self defense, when you call the police, make sure they hear the words you were in fear of your, or your families lives. That last item is critical.


Absolutely true.

Lawyer up!

Remember, police and DAs are competitive. In practical terms, that means getting you convicted could secure someone in the “legal system” a nice, juicy commendation or promotion – or both!

Your guilt or innocence in many instances could not be more besides the point.

Just ask Sandra Bland.

Oh. Wait a minute! That’s right. We can’t! She’s dead because she committed the cardinal offense of smoking a cigarette – in her own car, no less.

Go figure.

Anyway, lawyer up!


Other possible reasons that Mis Band is dead are:
1 She couldn’t resist the urge to behave in a manner calculated to get herself arrested
2 Her parents didn’t pony up the bail money quickly enough
3 She didn’t have the stones to sit quietly in a cell & apparently felt abandoned, lost, and without hope – suicidal

I was saying “amen” to your comment until you played the Bland card. I watched the video, too. If I had turned and tried to walk away from a police officer, wagging my finger as I went, my guess is my arrogant, disrespectful attitude would likely have resulted in taser marks on my back. I’m sorry she took her own life. She sure showed her parents and those hick town cops what’s what.


Warning shot/s as attempted murder? Interesting. There are several CCW organizations that do provide assistance/insurance for those law abiding folks that choose to practice concealed carry. USCC and the NRA are two that come to mind. Lots of interesting information in this string, thanks for sharing the corporate wisdom of all,

Zebra Dun

No, tell the perp to leave and lock the door after him or cover the door.
You have no arrest authorization and keeping the assailant in the house with you, your Amorous Buddy Bill and the reason the fight happened, the Girl only makes it more likely the assailant will go berserk and you will have to shoot him to keep from being beaten and disarmed or get beaten disarmed and all of you shot. You don’t want to shoot someone for sure.
For all you know Bill, or the girl invited the Perp in.
And if the Perp says I’m leaving and won’t stop leaving what do you do? Shoot him as he retreats?

Nope, get the problem/danger out of your house and give the police his description, let Bill handle his love problem and the main reason for the event, the girl to what ever.




Bill’s door was kicked in. I don’t think the intruder was invited in. The girl may have been in the middle, but, that’s not an invitation to waltz in, kick in the bedroom door and attack a resident.


Many states have a Castle Doctrine. Aka while in your home you can kill a perpetrator for sneezing. Citizen’s Arrest is everyone’s right. There is no law saying you can’t shoot criminals in the back, he’s already committed – Breaking and Entering, Assault, Property Damage. Let him escape so he can do more crimes ? No.

Zebra Dun

Yes, you can kill them, then spend an unknown time and a great amount of money defending your actions in court.
You can lose everything but your freedom and in most cases get sued in a wrongful death civil suit.
The law states if the perp is running or moving away you cannot shoot him/her in the back, front or side. The danger to you and your family is over as the perp retreats and to shoot while they do retreat is a matter of Manslaughter, a Homicide or even murder.
If the perp has a locked door between you and them you are in no danger.
But, you kill whom ever you wish in your home, or running away. I don’t care.
But be advised, It is not the citizens job to prevent future crimes.
That could lead to people shooting folks they think are guilty of a crime they haven’t committed.


The perp. can retreat to get a bigger weapon or come back with a bigger gang. That does not stand logic.
We are not talking about shooting someone in public, but one trespassing in your own home. You are insane.
I think you complain too much, are you one of the scumbag crawling lawyers who make our system gray ?


I will never fire a warning shot! I may miss but I will never fire a warning shot.


By firing a warning shot, a DA could claim, if you had time for a warning shot, your life was not in immediate danger.

John Dough

Firing a weapon in a person’s general direction is an act of deadly force. The prosecution would argue that you were not in immediate danger of death or grave bodily harm and that your warning shot was reckless. Also, you are responsible for every shot you take.

Kenneth Aaron

Could be Bill was to blame for the whole thing…! Roomates…>@!

Gary Law

What bothers me is we are here talking about our rights to protect our selfs if someone breaks in our home ==SAD -I just took a ccdw class i almost fell off my seat when i learned my rights as a home owner=GOOD THING== NOW I WILL PREPARE MYSELF IN ALL SITUATIONS -INSIDE & OUTSIDE MY HOME=


Thank you for sharing.

You must be white.

If you were black or brown, you would long ago have been as dead and still as a pile of calcified rocks.

Just saying.



Adam you are full of racist crap. Just saying.


As are you?
Just saying.
PS: Have a pleasant evening and be happy.


On a semi-related point:

An acquaintance of an acquaintance got into a fender-bender with an idiot. Acquaintance number two was a somewhat superior Golden Gloves veteran.

Idiot was a fat-boy Schlub with a big mouth and a foul attitude, full of bluster and vinegar.

Fat-boy idiot did not know when to leave well enough alone, and Golden Gloves finally lost it, subsequently pounding fat boy into a pavement-hugging, quivering puddle of pus.

Whereupon Golden Gloves was arrested.

Golden Gloves ended up the recipient of an ugly, kafkaesque, Orwellian, demeaning and frightening 2-year court battle to stay free.

He ultimately prevailed, but only by the thinnest of margins. And he vaporized his life savings in the process.

When asked about the incident, he said that in future, he would never again fight anyone unless he was in a truly life-threatening situation, not any of this “I feel threatened so I’m going to pull out my gun and show the world what a bad motherf*cker I am” BS.



Alan Lynn

The law is very clear… in civics class. Every state, county, city and probably zip code has their own take on what is legal. Generally you have the right to arrest someone. For a misdemeanor you are the complainant. For a felony you are a witness and the “state” is the charging body. You can be sued for false arrest. This is where it is shown that you lied when you made the arrest. Holding someone is hard. If they simply walk away then you shouldn’t shoot them because they pose no threat. If you are not trained and don’t have cuffs then you are just bluffing and that can turn out badly. Cops are a crap shoot. Will the cop(s) scream up, sirens blaring, jump out and start shooting at the gunman, you? Or will he/they be calm? How much are you willing to risk to keep this guy?

Vic vapor

some heavy duty zip ties keep one from having a firearm out when police arrive… hint hint


But who normally keeps zip ties in their pockets? Not a bad thought though


If I have to pull my gun, I’m not holstering it until I’M sure the threat has passed. If I call the police, they will be informed I have a firearm, my description, and that it’s being shoved right up the perp’s nose until they arrive. Then I’ll do whatever they want because they’ll be in control of the situation.


You break into my home, room mate mouthy or not, you’re going to suffer a severe case of lead/copper poisoning. There is no justification for crime, even when crimes of passion.

Zebra Dun

Go for it George Z.